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One Reason Not to Book A Boudoir Shoot | Irvine California Boudoir Photography

A brunette wearing a light blue ruffled bodysuit posing on a couch during her boudoir shoot

If you're reading this, you've probably already been to the Homepage and About Me to hear about why Jen and I think this experience is for every woman. It really doesn't matter what age, waist size, shoe size, relationship status, Instagram follower count, living situation, or wage you are earning. That being said, there is a reason that you definitely should not book a therapeutic photography session.

What is the reason, and why is it not a good reason? Keep reading...

The reason not to book a boudoir session is if the primary reason is to do it for anyone but yourself.

Yes, let's celebrate your engagement, anniversary, his birthday, want to spice up your sex life, or give an amazing Christmas or Valentine's present. Boudoir images and portraits naturally carry an incredible "wow" factor as a gift. The thing is if you cannot be honest with me and tell me that this therapeutic photography session is for you, then I would tell you DON'T DO IT.


Here are some reasons why this needs to be about YOU first and foremost:

  1. Your voice matters most: So many voices try to tell you what kind of woman, wife, or mother to be. The way you see yourself matters the most - not me, not your friend's, not your significant other's. Your voice matters and you deserve to see your boudoir vision come to life. Even if these photos are a gift for someone else, this experience should still be about you and make you feel fabulous. Whether the vision for your images is dark & moody or fun & playful, the most important key of a therapeutic photo shoot is that you feel beautiful, empowered, sexy, beheld, and seen in the way you want to be seen.

  2. Planning takes time, effort, and commitment: how much effort did it take to complete a task, project, or thoughtful gift when you knew it wasn't for you? For those of whose love language is "gift giving", this may not be a big deal or require much effort. However, for many others, it may take a great deal of effort. Planning for your therapeutic photography experience is going to take a lot of communication and collaboration between you and me. You'll need to out and choose outfits, talk with me as your guide on which work best with your body type, get your nails done, and all of this may feel stressful if you aren't doing this for yourself.

  3. Your emotional buy-in is so important: This is so much more than booking an appointment at the mall to get studio Christmas cards done. Your heart really needs to be in this in order for true transformation to occur. This doesn't mean that you won't be nervous. That's okay! Rest assured that once your photo session starts, you'll begin feeling incredible and start having fun in no time! I want to walk alongside you as you step into the studio and you border nervousness and excitement. I want to be there when you are courageous enough to walk through this part of your self-love journey. I want you to choose outfits that you love, choose heels that you feel incredible in, choose heirloom products that you will treasure forever, and pose you to celebrate your favorite physical features.

  4. Breakthrough - One main reason women love our methods and philosophy of boudoir experiences is because it gives each woman a chance to see themselves through another set of eyes–eyes that desire to help you see you as beautifully and wonderfully made. Sure, you can be doing this as a gift with a secondary purpose of finding breakthrough, but it won't be the same. If you're unwilling to step into seeing yourself differently, unwilling to trust our process, and trust me that I will capture the beauty that's been there all along, it won't have the same life-changing impact if you are doing this for someone else.

I want you to hear right now that you don't need any reason or occasion to schedule this experience. You are enough. Come as you are. Do this so that you can look at yourself in the mirror and smile. Book this experience so you can remind yourself at this moment, 10, 20, 30 years later, and look back with joy. Do it so you can break through your own insecurities and embrace self-love.

Don't do it for him, or to silence those opinions out there.

Do it for yourself.

Do it now.

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